Sex alone is fine as it is-you get it when you want it, and as much as you want it, without flighty companions who don’t respond to your messages. But what if we told you it could be even better? Don’t forget the lube: You may already have a vial for sex with your partner, but this lube can also greatly improve self-satisfaction.
“Using lube during solo sex can help people with vaginas focus on pleasure and help the body become more aroused and reduce friction,” explains Dr. Kate Balestrieri, CST, CSAT-S, PACT-II, EMDR, TSY, licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist and founder of Modern Intimacy. “By using lubrication, vagina wearers can get to know their bodies with greater ease; creating a ritual of internal and external application of lubrication can help improve somatosensory networks in the brain. This can be especially important if someone is experiencing a lack of sensation during solo or partner sex.”
Try one (or more!) of the products listed below and see if they take your solo session to the next level.
Miracle Cake Toy.
“Water-based lubricants are safe for most sex toys, whether they’re made of silicone, steel or glass,” says Dr. Balestrieri. The H20-based Toy Wonder was specifically designed to avoid dripping, so it stays where you want it (rather than all over the bedding).”
CAKE toy wonder, $10.00, on sale at Cake.
“Although silicone lube is safe to use with most condoms, it can ruin silicone sex toys,” says Dr. Balestrieri. “It works best on stainless steel or glass accessories. It’s an XBIZ 2018 award-winning silicone lubricant, and it doubles as a massage oil.”
Sliquid Silver Silicone, $40.99 $26.99, available at Ella Paradis.
Woo More Play Coconut Oil for Love
“Coconut oil often gets mixed reviews as a lubricant because it can lead to higher infection rates, so use it with caution,” explains Dr. Balestrieri. “However, this lubricant is specifically designed for the vagina, is great for massage, and is flavored with vanilla and stevia, so it’s also suitable for oral play.” Just in case, Dr. Balestrieri recommends consulting your doctor before trying out the formula to make sure it’s right for your body.
Woo More Play Coconut Love Oil, $25.00, on sale at Anthropologie.
Mod Shine Organic.
This reader-favorite lubricant contains aloe, making it ideal for use on the most sensitive areas.
Maude shine organic, $25.00, sold at Maude.
JimmyJane Toy Lubricant.
“JimmyJane toy lube is effective and safe for silicone, steel or glass toys as well as latex barriers,” says Dr. Balestrieri. “It’s durable, silky smooth and easy to clean.”
JimmyJane Toy Lubricant, $28.00, on sale at JimmyJane.
Trojan Willa Lube.
“This water-based lubricant is also safe for silicone, steel or glass sex toys and condoms,” says Dr. Balestrieri. “It’s inexpensive but not low quality: It even has added vitamin E and aloe to help prevent and soothe irritated skin.”
Trojan Willa Lube, $8.49, on sale at Target.
“What makes this formula unique is that it’s a performance-oriented lubricant,” Dr. Balestrieri explains this popular choice. “In other words, it stays functional as long as it’s worked with and only begins to dissolve when it’s stopped being used, so it’s great for long play sessions. It is body and latex safe and suitable for sex in water.”
uberlube überlube, $18.00, on sale at Urban Outfitters.